As a female I’ve done my share of loveless, self-criticism. I’ve stared at the parts of my body that I’ve deemed undesirable. With the help of a mirror, I’ve sent all of my negative thoughts inward showing no mercy. And guess what? Those parts of my body have always been my problem areas no matter how much fat I lose or muscle I tone up. But then if I fast forward a couple of years from any given self-critical moment, for example when I browse through old pictures on Facebook, I realize, “wow, I looked pretty good back then.” Even though “back then” all I saw were flaws and areas for improvement, just like I do today. So what does this cycle illustrate?
The content of your thoughts (or self-talk) is your reality.