We don't stress about not knowing how a book ends when we read chapter one, and we don't get disappointed if we fail to reach our goal on the first day we set out to achieve it. We understand it's Day One, so we simply channel our efforts into doing our best on that day in order to position us to be at our best tomorrow.
“The human body essentially recreates itself every six months. Nearly every cell of hair and skin and bone dies and another is directed to its former place. You are not who you were last November.” ― Donald Miller You are not who you were this time last year. Did you know that every six months...
How’s your attitude this week? Do you have a positive one where people want to be around you and associate with you? Are you feeling like a “Negative Nancy,” and for some reason, you always feel like you’re in a bad mood?
First, let’s address the big elephant in the room. Your attitude is a choice. The choice you make, no matter what the circumstances are, is yours and yours alone. But how do you maintain a positive attitude when things are terrible, when things are not going your way and you just feel awful?
Here are the tips and tricks that I’ve implemented in my own life. My wife tells me (sometimes annoyed) that I’m always in a good mood. I assure you, that’s not the case. I have my “shit” days – you know, those days where I can’t shake a feeling, or mindset. It’s like everytime I start to turn a corner, something whispers in the back of my head as a reminder to shift my focus back to what was originally pissing me off. What I’ve found by applying these following steps is that I can quickly course correct where my attitude is, versus where it should be.
“Once you realize that being good or great is not good enough—because legendary is attainable—you’ve got to make it important.”
A shift in perspective can change everything in life. Too often we accept certain outcomes without even testing them. Certain goals are too lofty, “impossible” even, and some dreams were never meant to be achieved. We buy into what everyone in society – or even the voices in the back of our head – tell us. We allow our lives to be boxed in by what’s possible and what’s not. At least, what we believe is not possible for us.
But that’s not true at all. Not even close. We each have an extraordinary potential to be world changers. We each have the ability to leave a positive, lasting legacy on those closest to us. We do this by believing there are no limits – and allowing our language and actions to follow that mindset. We begin to realize our only “limits” are the ones we place on ourselves and that they can be overcome with the correct perspective. We begin to pursue, dare I say compete for, greatness every single day.
Once you realize the truth about yourself – that obstacles are not insurmountable – you begin to act accordingly. You live differently when you no longer feel a certain outcome is not “impossible,” but instead quite attainable. When “average” is no longer acceptable, you begin to pursue greatness. Like Neo in the classic Matrix series, it’s as if your eyes are opened to a new world. You live with a fire that others wish they had.
And people on fire are the people that change the world.
One of Compete Every Day’s most popular Instagram graphics in 2015 read: “If you continuously compete with others, you become bitter, but if you continuously compete with yourself, you become better.” I reposted it and wrote a caption detailing my own issues of competing with others instead of focusing on competing with myself. It’s a struggle. But it’s natural. Comparison is a social skill we learn at an early age. When a friend tells you a story you automatically brainstorm on how you can relate. Your dog did the cutest thing the other day? That reminds me of when my dog did xyz! It’s called a conversation. You listen, you relate, you bring up supporting stories, and the conversation moves forward. So naturally, we notice how we relate to others. And we notice how we don’t relate.
In comes that awkward moment in a conversation when you realize you don’t have much in common, and you’re like… “yeah, so the weather has been crazy for January in Texas.” Sometimes it’s an innocent difference of opinion. Or there might be generational differences. Or they start describing their life’s accomplishments and you’re like, “Whiskey-tango-foxtrot? How are you so successful and I’ve barely scratched the surface?”